Yin as the Core of My Life
We all need both feminine and masculine energies in our lives — in a healthy balance.
Each of us carries both masculine and feminine energy. These two energies are profound forces that guide our lives. We need both — one cannot exist without the other. They complement each other, yin and yang.
Masculine energy provides direction and creates boundaries. The masculine holds structures together and moves things forward with determination. It is active, logical, analytical, and goal-oriented. When in balance, masculine energy brings safety, clarity, and consistency into our lives.
Feminine energy is soft, intuitive, receptive, and flowing. It is connected to emotions, creativity, the inner world, intuition and the mystery of life. The feminine does not try to control — it trusts, opens, receives, and feels deeply. When the feminine is present in our lives, we are connected to our intuition and heart energy.
How can an imbalance between these energies look like?
Balance is a constant interaction between the feminine and masculine. It’s like a dance — sometimes one leads, sometimes the other. When the masculine within us creates a safe space, the feminine can trust and surrender to the flow. When the feminine is allowed to be seen and heard, it brings depth, meaning, and presence into life.
However, many of us end up living in a way where one energy dominates the other, without balance. For some, masculine doing and control are the norm — performance, goals, and efficiency driving them every day. This may work for a while until the body or mind starts to long for rest, space, and connection. For others, feminine flow may dominate too much, making it hard to get anything tangible done — this is when the masculine is needed to carry projects through to completion.
I used to live entirely from my masculine energy, without any balance from the feminine. I was constantly in a fight-or-flight state. I was always performing, doing, achieving. There was hardly any space for softness, the feminine, in my life. My days were always packed with tight schedules and constant busyness. It was incredibly difficult for me to calm down, rest and just be. I had a deep need to control my life, the relationships around me, and my future. I was a hyper-independent woman who struggled to receive help because my mindset was “I don’t need anyone.” As a result of this constant overdoing, I became completely disconnected from my body and emotions. Being still and turning inward felt more like torture than peace.
What happened when I began to live more through the feminine?
When I started unpacking mu trauma, my life started to calm down little by little. I began to feel strongly that I no longer wanted to live in a state of constant achieving. I realized how draining it truly was for me. That’s when a shift toward stronger feminine energy began to unfold, subtly at first. And then, like an explosion, once the time was right, the full spectrum of the feminine came into my awareness. Suddenly I found myself listening to podcasts and reading about femininity, hearing conversations around me about it. Feminine energy seemed to be everywhere around me. For the first time in my life, that softness truly resonated with me. That was the beginning of a long journey toward a deeper connection with the powerful feminine energy within me.
Today, my life is deeply infused with receptivity, sensitivity, intuition, creativity, and flowing. I’ve created spaciousness in my life so that I can simply be and receive. I get to live a life that truly feels like mine — without the constant pressure to perform. I am able and willing to receive help from the Universe and from the people around me. I love creativity, the slowness of life, being in stillness, daydreaming and all things soft.
Through this inner transformation, my love for Yin Yoga also beautifully blossomed. While studying in India, I received the most heartwarming compliment “Jenna, you are Yin and Yin is you.” I took these words deeply into my heart, because I knew the long journey I had walked to arrive to that point. I had found a new balance between the feminine and the masculine — one that doesn’t exhaust me, but instead brings peace into my life. Yin is not just my work, it is the very core of my life now.
Yin. Feminine. Softness. Slowness. Being. Receiving — these are all things I now deeply love in my life. <3